Being a single parent isn’t easy. I don’t mean the day to day stuff, although
that can be a challenge too. I mean the
stuff that appears out of nowhere and throws you.
Toddler has started having issues whenever he comes back
from his dads. Last time, when he got
home, he poo’ed his pants for 5 days in a row after being clean for
months. It might have just been a
natural potty training blip but it still makes me paranoid that there is
something going on in his head. Every
time he comes back, he has an unsettled night.
Last night he woke twice and was really angry both times,
crying and kicking his blankets about.
When he got up this morning he was still really angry. He couldn’t tell me why he was angry but I am
now pretty convinced that there is a pattern emerging.
His dad and I have been able to put our personal feelings
aside where our son is concerned. We are
friendly and amicable in front of him and we even go for family days out together
for Toddler’s benefit. We still get on
as friends and he speaks to his dad every day on the phone and he enjoys
looking at photos of himself when he was little and daddy lived with us. Of course, Toddler can’t remember daddy
living at home – he left when Tom was 1.
He has also started to play one of us off against the
other. Yesterday he told me that when my
favourite song came on the car radio, he told daddy that it was my favourite
then daddy turned it off and he was sad.
After speaking to daddy, I found out that he did indeed tell daddy it
was my favourite song then daddy asked him if he wanted to listen to it and
toddler said “no, you can turn it off”.
I wish I could get into the head of a 3 year old and see exactly
what is going on.
I have googled the subject to death and found that the
unsettled, angry behaviour is quite normal but it still makes me feel
guilty. I am constantly wondering what I
can do to make the situation easier for him.
He knows that we both love him and he enjoys the days out that we have
together.
Any advice? I don’t
want to end up with a screwed up angry teenager!
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